My view for another view for you


Lets start from the beginning. Who makes the rules for a relationship? What makes the right relationship for you? Are there set rules?

Well, knowing someone usually means that you have something in common or someone in common. This doesn’t always mean that you get along or understand each other because you can’t always relate to everyone around you. People’s beliefs often put them together or keep them together. Many successful marriages are made from both partners having the same beliefs in life, such as live and let live, or don’t poke into anyone else’s business, or in other ways such as both believing in doing charity work or both always wanted to travel, both wanting lots of children, or both wanting to earn lots of money in their early years to secure themselves in later life.

Faults are the other thing that separates who can be with someone and who couldn’t be with them. For instance I have a friend who has a husband that really annoys me but the things he does are things that don’t annoy her so that’s fine. I would think that the things she does would annoy some men too but they don’t seem to annoy him so they are very happy.

People can’t change other people; people can only change themselves.  Relationships are made up of people who can relate to one another in the things they say and do, and can therefore understand them and react in a way that the other person can understand too.

Family relationships

These are some of the strangest relationships that people have.  They can be close or distant, but what they are is always there whether the person wants it or not.  You can fallout with a boyfriend or even a husband and cut all ties with them but with family, even though you may fall out from time to time, they are still there, see them or not.

Friend relationships

These are all about support and honesty.  There are very obvious rules to friendships and you certainly know when you have broken a rule!   Friendships are very important relationships in most parts of your life. They are a back up system when you feel you need justification or confidence but they are also a way or hearing the truth from someone you trust will tell you it straight… whether you will like it or not.

to be cont.,


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Qualified Psychotherapeutic counsellor. Transactional Analysis/ Integrative Psychotherapy/CBT
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